“Emancipate yourselves from mental slavery, none but ourselves can free our minds!”
I had someone pop into my life from the past and I am not sure what to make of it or why it had to happen right now. It got me thinking of how we parted ways many years ago, with brazen comments and crushing statements that took a very long time to heal. Five years later and my inbox, is now filled with an apology saying that I was right for everything that happened.
Not to get into the details but I was left to analyze and question, narrowing it down to regret and grudges. It took me a few years to let go of the hurt that I felt being shattered and bruised from the sudden events at the time. I held on to a grudge and despised the person until I came to a point of internal forgiveness, when I heard the definition described as “letting go that the past, could have been any different.” For whatever reason I had to experience that pain, I could not change it and I knew it was not something I did wrong. I simply moved on, and let go of the anger and hate that was suppressed.
When I read the words a few days ago from that person, I realized that they were living with regret for years. It was not the first time an attempt was made to get into contact with me, but the first time an explanation was shared. I do not condone the act that was done in the past, but I have forgiven the person and decided to let them know so they can release the guilt. People are human and make mistakes that destroy a person’s dignity and it takes time for wounds to heal and for confidence to strengthen. I am a firm believer in people crossing your path to teach you a lesson, and for me it took a lot to acknowledge and express forgiveness. At the end of the day, regret and grudges are pointless to my and anyone else’s balance and contentment. Give yourself a chance to free yourself of the unnecessary baggage and do not let your ego get in the way.